Ten years ago, Dad was in good health and took no medications. Then he started seeing "Dr. Jones." Dad's cholesterol and blood pressure were slightly elevated, so Jones put him on a statin and a blood-pressure drug. Over the years, Dad's cholesterol and pressure continued to go up, and he began having other unexplained health problems. Every time, Dr. Jones denied any connection to the drugs and instead increased the dosages and prescribed more.

Several times I begged Dad to get a second opinion, but he trusted and liked Jones. He told me I worried too much and that he was simply getting older. Two years ago, Dad began having serious problems and was put on a blood thinner and diuretics. When he collapsed, the ER doctor told him to stop taking his cholesterol meds. Dr. Jones said the ER doctor was an idiot and instead diagnosed Dad with an unrelated muscle inflammation, for which he prescribed a high-dose steroid. When Dad began showing severe side effects, Jones claimed they were unconnected.

Annie, please warn your readers. Dr. Jones' haste in reaching for a prescription pad seems to be standard medical practice. But I'm just as angry with myself for not being more forceful. Maybe then, Dad would be out tending his tomatoes today, not dying on me. —Bitter Pill

Dear Bitter: It is always wise to get a second opinion. Please stop blaming yourself. No matter how hard you kicked and screamed, your father would most likely have continued with the regimen he was taking from a doctor he trusted. And not all doctors are willing to admit they have misjudged their treatment protocol. If you think Dr. Jones is guilty of malpractice, he should be reported to his state medical board. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Dear Annie: I need to know how to invite someone to have lunch at a restaurant without having them assume I intend to pay for their meal. I'm not talking about a date — just a meal with a friend. Finances are extremely tight, but it would be embarrassing to tell them that. —Wanting Company

Dear Wanting: Simply say something along the lines of, "We should get together for lunch. How about Tuesday?" Then have them suggest a place and time.